When I was in elementary school, we used to pick teams at recess. The teacher would line us up, pick 2 captains and allow them to pick who they wanted to be on their team. During this process there was always one child left at the very end…the one that no one chose to be on their team. Belonging. It’s a need we all have deep inside. We want to belong. When my kids were little, I read a parenting book once that gave me some of the best parenting advice I have ever found. Tell your kids you choose them. Tell them they belong. The author gave some examples on how to accomplish this, and I began using one of those examples. Ellie is 10 and so I periodically say to her, “Ellie, if God lined up all the ten year old girls in the world and told me I could pick just one, do you know who I would pick”? She usually smiles a silly smile and then I say, “I would pick you every time”. Now, listen, I by no means am in the running for mother of the year, but this little tip has really encouraged my kids and brought us closer together, because they know that Bryan and I choose them. We want them and isn’t that something we can all relate to? In the gospel of John 15 we read these words from Jesus, “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit–fruit that will last”. What comfort it is to know that we are wanted by our Lord and Savior. He created us, He loves us, He chose us. Thanks for reading today! ~Joy
I Choose You!
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